Prepare for the agreement—and the everyday life that follows. I help you organize practical questions about responsibilities, timing, communication, records, and follow-through, so you can bring clearer concerns to your attorney or mediator. The aim is to identify common sources of future misunderstanding, without promising that every conflict can be prevented.
Your attorney advises on legal rights and agreement terms. A mediator facilitates discussions neutrally. My role is to help you organize your priorities, practice clear communication, and keep track of the practical questions you want answered.
Arrive with your practical priorities organized and the questions you want answered.
One 90-minute preparation session
One 30-minute follow-up
A prioritized question list and practical-life checklist
Maximum 3 total coach hoursLive appointments and all included off-call work count toward this limit.
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Maximum three total coach hours: 90-minute preparation session, 30-minute follow-up, 45 minutes of intake/client-note preparation, and 15 minutes to finalize the question brief. Work from a short questionnaire and up to five pages of your own factual notes; agreement text is not reviewed. Build a priorities map, up to 15 practical questions, and a discussion agenda together. Receive the brief within two business days of the preparation session; refine it during the follow-up within the same limits. No ongoing messaging or meeting attendance. Payment is due before the first session.
Keep your questions, communication, and next steps organized while negotiations are underway.
Two 45-minute preparation/debrief sessions
Two 30-minute check-ins
Up to two 90-minute scheduled negotiation-support blocks
Maximum 8 total coach hoursLive appointments and all included off-call work count toward this limit.
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Maximum eight total coach hours: two 45-minute preparation/debrief sessions, two 30-minute check-ins, up to two 90-minute negotiation-support blocks, 60 minutes preparation/notes, 60 minutes secure-message work, and 30 minutes updating your practical open-question tracker. Support blocks may be permitted attendance at private mediation/settlement meetings or scheduled one-to-one preparation/debrief. Attendance is conditional; see participation terms below. Up to two consolidated messages weekly, 500 words each; response within two business days. Up to ten pages of client-authored factual notes in total, subject to the preparation time cap; no agreement-text review. Best if you already have a question list. Payment is due before support begins.
Combine a clear starting plan with defined coaching support as the discussions move forward.
All Questions & Preparation inclusions
All Negotiation Coaching inclusions
A shared question list and practical action tracker
Maximum 11 total coach hoursLive appointments and all included off-call work count toward this limit.
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Maximum 11 total coach hours across six weeks: all three preparation hours plus all eight negotiation-coaching hours, with the same component and page limits. This includes 7.5 hours of live appointments/support and 3.5 hours of preparation, messages, and written work. Plan the preparation in the first 14 days and negotiation support in the following 28 days; agree on the actual schedule at kickoff within the 42-day window. Message access applies during the four-week support phase. The combined fee is $5,000 versus $5,500 if the two offers are purchased separately. Pay $5,000 upfront or $2,500 before preparation and $2,500 before the support phase. The package ends at its agreed limits; it is not ongoing service until an MSA is signed.
All periods begin on the agreed start date. The maximum includes every session, support block, preparation task, note, message, review of client-authored factual notes, and tracker update. Component limits apply. Reserved meeting blocks include waiting and breaks when you ask the coach to remain available; they do not include an entire mediation day or on-call coverage. Appointments are Monday–Friday, 9 a.m.–4 p.m. Pacific Time, subject to availability. No automatic renewal. Third-party attorney, mediator, and other professional fees are separate.
The $5,000 combined package contains the same three-hour preparation and eight-hour negotiation-coaching components: 11 hours total, including 7.5 live hours and 3.5 off-call hours. It is $500 less than purchasing both separately. It does not include extra hours until an agreement is signed, and no settlement or conflict-free outcome is guaranteed.
Illustrative planning questions
Clarity about how life will work.
We use your priorities to identify questions for your professional team. These examples are discussion prompts, not proposed agreement terms.
01
Responsibilities and timing
What practical task needs an owner, a target date, and a way to confirm it is complete?
02
Expenses and records
What receipts, account information, or confirmations will each person need, and how will they be exchanged?
03
Schedules and transitions
Where might school, work, travel, holidays, or handoffs create a practical question to raise with the professionals?
04
Communication
What everyday information needs a clear communication channel and expectations to discuss?
05
Home and belongings
What logistical steps, access arrangements, records, or handover questions should be clarified?
06
Changes and unanswered questions
What foreseeable changes or unanswered questions should be taken back to the attorney or mediator before a decision?
Coaching before, during, and after discussions.
Before: organize your priorities, rehearse how to ask a question, and prepare a practical agenda. During: use scheduled support blocks for permitted meeting attendance or one-to-one coaching. After: capture your own open questions and next actions without interpreting any agreement.
Participation and confidentiality
Attendance is available only at private mediation or settlement meetings where the facilitator, counsel where applicable, and all required participants permit the coach’s limited role. Agree on confidentiality and participation before sharing information. The coach may listen, keep permitted logistical notes, and help you organize questions during agreed breaks; she does not address the other side, transmit offers, or act as mediator or representative. Court appearances and court-connected custody mediation are excluded. If attendance is not permitted or not wanted, the same 180-minute allocation can be used for scheduled one-to-one preparation/debrief by agreement, with no extra hours. There is no guaranteed access to any meeting.
There is no promise that coaching records are privileged or that adding a coach preserves confidentiality protections. Ask counsel and the mediator what can be shared before inviting anyone or providing documents. No recording or AI meeting bot is included.
Represented or unrepresented
Coaching is available to represented and unrepresented adults after location, scope, and conflict screening. Your attorney advises on legal rights, terms, and consequences. A mediator facilitates negotiations neutrally and is not automatically your legal adviser. Deserae supports one adult with practical preparation and communication; she does not negotiate or speak for you, recommend settlement terms or concessions, draft or revise an MSA, interpret clauses, assess fairness or enforceability, or advise whether to sign. If you are unrepresented, seek independent legal review, including limited-scope review if appropriate, before signing.
If you need more time
We notify you when an off-call allowance is approximately 80% used. Work in that category pauses at the limit unless you approve a written estimate and spending cap. Additional off-call work is $450/hour in 15-minute increments ($112.50). An additional scheduled 60-minute coaching or meeting-support block is $650. Extra meeting time is not automatically added when negotiations run long. Any unused-service, extension, rescheduling, and cancellation arrangements are explained in the signed agreement before enrollment.
If you already have a coaching package
MSA practical-question preparation can be selected as the single focused project in Executive Divorce Navigation, or as a project within Private Client Advisory, using those packages’ existing time limits. Neither core package automatically includes these separate MSA offers or the three-hour negotiation-support allocation. Agree on which engagement covers each task; overlapping work is never billed twice.
A question brief, not an MSA review
The deliverables are a practical priorities map, question list, discussion agenda, and client action tracker. No legal documents, settlement terms, court forms, financial valuations, or advice about whether to agree are included.